Kelly Brock, creator of the Peaceful Performer Movement, joined me for a special episode of the Beyond Leadership Podcast: Get Clear on Your Vision. Kelly is also a business and leadership coach who focuses on helping people transition from “anxious achiever” to “peaceful performer.”
After following along with Kelly for years on social media, I finally pulled the trigger and signed up to work with her after she introduced her Peaceful Performer Movement. It dawned on me that I was the anxious achiever she was describing; I’m a high achiever, but I had so much backend anxiety about getting it right. I wanted to become a peaceful performer like Kelly, so when she started talking about vision, I was sold.
If you’re a regular here, you know how much I value vision. Your vision is the foundation of anything you’re going to do in your life or for your team. I asked Kelly quite a few questions about how she approaches vision, and I’m thrilled to be able to share them with you here. For the full experience, I recommend listening to the episode here.
First, I asked Kelly what ‘vision’ means to her.
“My practice is visioneering,” said Kelly. “Almost like engineering, but with your vision.” Kelly explained that visioneering is the act of designing the future that you want to experience, and reminded me that when I was her student, starting a podcast was one of the things that I included in my vision. If that isn’t proof that her method works, I don’t know what is.
Kelly noted that once you’ve gotten clear on your vision, you’re clean on where you’re going. “I see so many leaders adopting other people’s definition of success...they’re never actually slowing down to do this step first,” Kelly said, referring to vision-setting as a crucial first step in manifesting your ideal life. “I see a lot of leaders goal-setting, but I don’t see a lot of leaders vision-setting, and I think that’s what sets the difference between a really professional follower and an actual leader.”
Next, I asked Kelly to explain the difference between setting a goal and having a vision.
“A goal is pretty much this tangible thing that you’re going to hit. A vision is an experience,” said Kelly. “It’s the life that you’re going to be the best version of yourself. It’s so much more full than just this notch on your belt of accomplishments.” And perhaps most importantly, Kelly shared, “Goals get accomplished on your way to the vision. But the vision is bigger.”
“I see so many people walking into ‘next steps’ in their life instead of the best steps of their life,” Kelly noted before going on to say, “Your vision tells you where you want to go - if I don’t know where to go I don’t know how to get there, so we have to first set that vision.”
Kelly tells a story about how one day she woke up and realized that she didn’t even know what she wanted, but she was pretty sure “this” wasn’t it. Sometimes, it can feel really cathartic and inspiring to change your mind and take charge of something new. Even if you don’t know where to go, learning how to set a new vision is a gift.
(Kelley shares via IG how she brainstorms her vision)
Kelly encourages the women that she leads and coaches to spend 90 minutes writing down their vision for waking up 10 years from now, and urges them to include details like:
What does it look and feel like?
Are you enjoying a cup of coffee?
Is it peaceful?
What is your engagement with your spouse like?
What does it look like for your kids?
How do people feel about you?
What are you wearing?
By answering these questions, you can begin to zero in on your true vision for your life. Once you’ve identified everything you want and you’re clear on your vision, you’re able to make better decisions when it comes to work, relationships, your family, and more.
Setting your vision doesn’t mean locking it in and forgetting about it, or working towards it for the next 10 years. In fact, it’s so okay to change your vision along the way. The first time I did this exercise with Kelly, I wrote down what I thought I was supposed to write down. And now that I’ve redone it quite a few times, I look back at my first attempt and I wonder why I ever wrote those things down. I wrote down what I was told I should want, so to me, it’s just as important to reevaluate your vision and how you’re going to get there. Kelly agreed, and urged listeners to give themselves permission to evolve.
Finally, I asked Kelly what listeners should do if they feel stuck or encounter roadblocks on their way to setting their vision.
“We can’t take an old version of ourselves and put it in a new vision,” she said before explaining that you have to clear the path and get rid of roadblocks before you set sail for the future. When Kelly encountered obstacles along her path, she asked herself what was holding her back from living her best life, and what she needed to give up that was no longer serving her.
If you ask Kelly, leadership is so individual, and there’s not one size that fits all, so it’s important that leaders pause to reflect and ask themselves what’s been getting in the way of becoming a better leader.
If you’re as impressed by Kelly as I am, you can check her out on the ‘Gram to get the latest details on what she’s offering.
And if you don’t quite know what you want or where you’re going, you’re not alone. I’ve worked hard to create my own community of women on their journey to figure out life and leadership. My chat with Kelly only scratches the surface of what we’ll be getting into in week 4 of the Aligned Leader Project.
If you’ve ever found yourself longing for a deeper sense of self awareness or a clear understanding of where you’re going, the Aligned Leader Project might be the perfect thing for you. It’s a 6-week group coaching course that dives into three areas of my signature framework - know yourself, know your vision, and know your people so that you can develop an authentic leadership style that’s unique to you.
To learn more, visit my website and set up a call with me to see if the Aligned Leader Project is right for you.
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